You can subdue, but never tame me.. try me, bitch! (harleygirlsd) wrote in its_ok_to_cry,
You can subdue, but never tame me.. try me, bitch!
harleygirlsd
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This is not REALLY "related" to the subject of this forum, but I wanted to get a true "cross-section" of opinions on my dilemma.


I have a son, Michael, who's 8 years old. He and I were talking the other day and he mentioned that a kid in his class actually got (gasp!) MONEY for doing stuff around the house! I told him that many kids do, and that it's called an 'allowance', and was he interested in getting an allowance for chores - and he JUMPED at it. During the ride home, he and I brainstormed a little and came up with a handful of things he could help out with (feeding the cats, making sure his clothes got ALL THE WAY INTO the hamper, picking up dishes and taking them to the kitchen, and one or two other simple tasks). He's really jazzed by the idea, and I think it'll be a good lesson about the VALUE of a buck.

Part 2: I took the idea to my husband. According to "The Gospel According to D" (sarcasm intended)... when HE (D) was a kid, HE did chores around the house and didn't get any allowance - it was his "payment" for "being allowed" to live there, it was like his "rent". My jaw dropped to the floor and I let the matter drop.

Now I *KNOW* that my in-laws are assholes... and D (as a result) has his own issues. But that's not what THIS post is about. It's OBVIOUS to me that D is not going to be agreeable to the idea of the kid earning any hard cash, because *HE* (D) didn't have that privilege growing up. (Notice how it's ALL about D?) ::sigh::

So here's my dilemma. Do I:
(1) "Give in" (GAG!) to this S.O.B. (again) to 'keep the peace'? or do I
(2) Give little Michael his allowance "on the side", with the proviso that he NOT mention it to Daddy?

(Note that option 2 would, sadly, NOT be a new concept to the child... kids are VERY perceptive, and I'm pretty sure that little Mike has "D" already pegged as a selfish, egotistical ass.)


So, anyways... I would appreciate EVERYONE'S opinion (whether you're with me or not) on this one. I'm looking at making a decision in the next week or two.

Thanks to everyone! Have a great day no matter what you're doing... and be cool. ;)
Harley
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Im not the world's wisest person...so I would just take my opinion all too seriousely.

Don't give in..just...no.

Can you try talking to "D" about it? Just sit down and talk to him on the issue? Times have changed and Your child in growing up in YOUR household, not "D"'s parents.

If all else fails, go with the second plan, I suppose.
Sorry if i wasn't much help.